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Gratitude
Gratitude
I have the impression that people's feelings have become shallow, clear: we are more and more aware of many things, we know more and more about ourselves and the reality that surrounds us. It is fashionable and necessary and without doubt continuous improvement. We know more and more, we live in a hurry, we fail and succeed ...
Wonderful when success pleases and failure teaches.
Sometimes I have the impression that we have unfortunately become more selfish, we know more than we feel the words spoken: please, I'm sorry or thank you are just words because it falls out like that. I omit people who are foreign to these phrases, because unfortunately it happens anyway. But do we actually feel? Or maybe we also have no time for feelings? Much is said in the context of how it would be good for us: do not worry, do not stress, take care of yourself. And others. If someone is affected by misfortune? "Sick daughter" .... sure, there are many cheaters, but it's easier to look away ... but what if we are unlucky?
Yesterday I met a lady who adopted a dog from a shelter, expressed gratitude to the person who gave the dog. "The Lord claimed that he lost his flat" - the Lady did not express any sadness over the fate of this Lord who, perhaps, with heartache parted with his friend. The lady was grateful that he gave the dog away, that he didn't attach it somewhere. However, at some point she expressed her deficiency in the form of a lack of knowledge about the dog, his preferences regarding karma .... Well, I just remembered the topic I was supposed to raise here, namely gratitude :)
I had a situation in which I felt gratitude and hence a strong desire retaliation, making a nice gesture ... as it was hard for me I decided to ask what I could give ... my question was often not so much misunderstood as it was in surprise.
I think that sometimes ordinary thank you is not enough, sometimes my gratitude is so great that I feel a strong desire to repay.
Gratitude is also realizing and accepting the fact that success is not only our merit, that there is someone without whom some things would be more difficult or impossible. Someone could refuse, and yet showed good will, did not have to, it was not due to us and it is worth being grateful. Not only that: you are not sure if the favor will happen again.
We are grateful for something. Religions also encourage gratitude, reminding you that man is not almighty and almighty, he is not the navel of the world. You didn't earn, you didn't buy and you got life, health and this is a reason to thank. I am not a believer myself, but I give this attitude as an example of being happier and enjoying the moment.
A long time ago, I had the opportunity to observe two people for a short time: older, unfamiliar women ... both lonely, living in misery, in addition, sick and bedridden. They didn't know each other but lived quite close together - maybe two kilometers. Housing conditions almost identical. The difference was one, fundamental: a sense of gratitude to Mrs. s aggressive and demanding, dominant. Another smiling, happy and grateful that someone came to her. I remind you that both women are completely dependent and lying.
A sense of control, a strong desire to control yourself and others, selfishness, self-centeredness. Blending into one mass, meaning, trash, attempting to see joy in fine things ... one great machine fueled by the desire to profit, survive just any way. We think about ourselves so often and so little about others. This attitude is very debilitating in the long run, which leads to disorders and diseases. Letting go of control brings relief, gratitude: happiness.
Gratitude gives us a sense of happiness, it does not close but opens to other people, motivates us to act, drives us but does not burn. Well, but if we have good thinking does not appear: this is the norm, then I deserve?
I remember a certain meeting of bloggers: I mean by spending time together people who share common activities, interests ... It's very sad when someone can not appear at such a meeting which I think is a great opportunity to meet in person, ask questions, hear something ... I am always accompanied by great emotions, great joy and gratitude. Sure, everyone experiences their own way: there are those who appear for gifts, their business. However, I can not understand: the attitudes of people who report, and unfortunately do not reach the place, it is not known for what reasons, well it happens. I was stunned by the claims of such people against the organizers ... I am a monument and I do not understand: if I promised something and I failed, it is appropriate to say sorry. From repentance, in this situation, there is a whole gulf. The last thing that would come to mind is asking for ... gifts, what times when the most important thing is for which you can pay, play without a problem: if not stationary, it is via the Internet. Priceless is time, attention, the presence of another person, m
xoxo
I have the impression that people's feelings have become shallow, clear: we are more and more aware of many things, we know more and more about ourselves and the reality that surrounds us. It is fashionable and necessary and without doubt continuous improvement. We know more and more, we live in a hurry, we fail and succeed ...
Wonderful when success pleases and failure teaches.
Sometimes I have the impression that we have unfortunately become more selfish, we know more than we feel the words spoken: please, I'm sorry or thank you are just words because it falls out like that. I omit people who are foreign to these phrases, because unfortunately it happens anyway. But do we actually feel? Or maybe we also have no time for feelings? Much is said in the context of how it would be good for us: do not worry, do not stress, take care of yourself. And others. If someone is affected by misfortune? "Sick daughter" .... sure, there are many cheaters, but it's easier to look away ... but what if we are unlucky?
Yesterday I met a lady who adopted a dog from a shelter, expressed gratitude to the person who gave the dog. "The Lord claimed that he lost his flat" - the Lady did not express any sadness over the fate of this Lord who, perhaps, with heartache parted with his friend. The lady was grateful that he gave the dog away, that he didn't attach it somewhere. However, at some point she expressed her deficiency in the form of a lack of knowledge about the dog, his preferences regarding karma .... Well, I just remembered the topic I was supposed to raise here, namely gratitude :)
I had a situation in which I felt gratitude and hence a strong desire retaliation, making a nice gesture ... as it was hard for me I decided to ask what I could give ... my question was often not so much misunderstood as it was in surprise.
I think that sometimes ordinary thank you is not enough, sometimes my gratitude is so great that I feel a strong desire to repay.
Gratitude is also realizing and accepting the fact that success is not only our merit, that there is someone without whom some things would be more difficult or impossible. Someone could refuse, and yet showed good will, did not have to, it was not due to us and it is worth being grateful. Not only that: you are not sure if the favor will happen again.
We are grateful for something. Religions also encourage gratitude, reminding you that man is not almighty and almighty, he is not the navel of the world. You didn't earn, you didn't buy and you got life, health and this is a reason to thank. I am not a believer myself, but I give this attitude as an example of being happier and enjoying the moment.
A long time ago, I had the opportunity to observe two people for a short time: older, unfamiliar women ... both lonely, living in misery, in addition, sick and bedridden. They didn't know each other but lived quite close together - maybe two kilometers. Housing conditions almost identical. The difference was one, fundamental: a sense of gratitude to Mrs. s aggressive and demanding, dominant. Another smiling, happy and grateful that someone came to her. I remind you that both women are completely dependent and lying.
A sense of control, a strong desire to control yourself and others, selfishness, self-centeredness. Blending into one mass, meaning, trash, attempting to see joy in fine things ... one great machine fueled by the desire to profit, survive just any way. We think about ourselves so often and so little about others. This attitude is very debilitating in the long run, which leads to disorders and diseases. Letting go of control brings relief, gratitude: happiness.
Gratitude gives us a sense of happiness, it does not close but opens to other people, motivates us to act, drives us but does not burn. Well, but if we have good thinking does not appear: this is the norm, then I deserve?
I remember a certain meeting of bloggers: I mean by spending time together people who share common activities, interests ... It's very sad when someone can not appear at such a meeting which I think is a great opportunity to meet in person, ask questions, hear something ... I am always accompanied by great emotions, great joy and gratitude. Sure, everyone experiences their own way: there are those who appear for gifts, their business. However, I can not understand: the attitudes of people who report, and unfortunately do not reach the place, it is not known for what reasons, well it happens. I was stunned by the claims of such people against the organizers ... I am a monument and I do not understand: if I promised something and I failed, it is appropriate to say sorry. From repentance, in this situation, there is a whole gulf. The last thing that would come to mind is asking for ... gifts, what times when the most important thing is for which you can pay, play without a problem: if not stationary, it is via the Internet. Priceless is time, attention, the presence of another person, m
xoxo
Saturday, June 8, 2019
Thought is a powerful force - how to put it into practice
Will anyone still protest today that thoughts are a powerful
force that can be used for good or bad use? Thoughts can help or harm us.
"Everything we are is the result of our thoughts," said Buddha. Let
us be worried about finding a few practical examples on how to use the power of
thought in life. Here are my suggestions ...
1. Obsessive thinking. Happy is the one who has never
experienced it. There is a comparison between obsessive thinking and holding a
glass of water in hand. no matter how much it weighs, no matter how long we
hold it: if a minute - no problem, an hour - the hand starts to ache, all day -
the hand will eventually lose feeling. The glass still weighs the same, but the
longer you hold it, the heavier it becomes. Remember to put down the glass!
2. If joy is lacking in our actions, let us not do it any
longer. Apparently easy to say, but more difficult to perform, sometimes in our
activities we feel so enslaved by various life circumstances that it is
difficult for us to simply withdraw. Often, work becomes our prison or
marriage. If we feel like a prison that you can't escape, it's a sign that it's
bad with us. We must forcibly find at least small joys in our everyday, gloomy
existence, something that will brighten the darkness of our soul - literally by
force. Such joys found by force can - with a little commitment on our part -
become a stepping stone to a better quality of life. Sometimes it is enough to
make a small break in the wall to see the light of day.
3. Life in fear, anxiety paralyzes our actions, destroys us.
Oh yes, nothing can suppress us, destroy us physically and mentally, like the
years spent in fear / anxiety (I will not dwell on these differences now - both
feelings destroy the body if we experience them long enough). Fear and anxiety
are sometimes quite irrational, but we do not notice it - our body reacts to
every fear in the same way. And yet countless things are a reason for us to
fear / anxiety: work (fear of loss, inefficiency at work, before the boss),
family (fear of breakup, illness, death, failure), car, travel, poverty,
weather, criminals ... The catalog remains open.These feelings, experienced in
excess, can paralyze us, we are afraid to move, we are afraid to live, we only
think about maintaining the status quo. Let's get rid of them - on our own or
with the help of a specialist (it's not a shame!), Just to be effective.
4. Do not wish anything bad to anyone - it may come true and
eventually he will come back to us.Don't say, "damn it all,"
"everything sucks." It sounds a bit exotic, maybe a bit like fairy
tips, but today more and more scientists are beginning to talk loudly about the
fact that energy follows attention, and bad emotions ultimately affect the
malicious person himself. Quantum physics bows.
Mind hygiene. Just as we remember about body hygiene, we
should also remember about mind hygiene, which is the basis of a happy life. If
we have chaos in our heads, how can we hear the voice of our nature? Let's
master constantly galloping thoughts and learn to direct our attention properly
- to what is most important and most beautiful to us. Let's find something that
gives us joy!
In our time, mind hygiene is very important, and this is due
to the enormity of information and stimuli that reach us every day. I think
there are incomparably more of them than only about twenty years ago, when I
was a young girl myself. TV, radio, smartphone, laptop, live and other
conversations, buzz, noise, music, ads, posters, people, cars, street, books,
news etc. Our thoughts follow all this. Moments of peace and quiet are
necessary for us, and how many of them do we have in a day? Even the night is
too short to sleep.
Mind hygiene, i.e. focus and quietness is the basic issue.
If we follow this, we will quickly learn to think positively and focus on
positives, which in turn will allow us to control exuberant emotions.
I realize that this is not all that can be said about the
art of skilful thinking, but the article must end one day and I wanted to leave
room for further action for you in the comments. Add your ways, maybe together
we can create a small vademecum of using the brain every day.
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